I want to chat about something that’s super important to me: keeping things clean and comfy for everyone, even those who don’t share my love for diapers.
I was hanging out with some pals recently, and they started teasing me about my bowel incontinence. It’s something I deal with thanks to Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS), and while I’m pretty chill about the jokes, one friend — who overheard the conversation — pulled me aside. They said to me, “Hey, I’m cool with you, but I’d rather not deal with any diaper mishaps at the furry con we’re both hitting up.” Totally fair, right? It got me thinking about how I can make sure everyone feels good around me, no matter their stance on diapers.
Diapers are just part of my everyday vibe — I wear them, I own it, and I’m proud of who I am. But here’s the deal: I’m all about being considerate. I don’t just slap on a diaper and call it a day. I’m careful about when and where I wear them, and I’ve got my hygiene game on lock. Living with IBS means I’ve had to figure out some ninja-level tricks to keep things under control. We’re talking smart dieting, skipping caffeine and alcohol when I need to, and staying active to keep my gut happy. If I feel a flare-up coming? I’m out of there faster than you can say “fursuit.” Sure, a drink or two at a con is tempting, but I’ve got backup plans to stay fresh and mess-free.
Changing regularly is non-negotiable. Diapers are awesome, but they’re not meant to be a 24/7 wear-and-forget deal — especially with bowel incontinence in the mix. I keep a mental timer (and sometimes a real one on my smartphone) to swap out every few hours, or sooner when necessary. I will usually have on hand a small, discreet bag with extra diapers, wipes, and a sealable disposal pouch. Pro tip: double-bag any used ones in scented trash bags before tossing them in a designated bin. No one’s the wiser, and the air stays clear.
Next up, wipes. Baby wipes, adult wipes, flushable wipes — you name it, I’ve got a pack handy. After every change, I give myself a quick wipe-down to keep my skin fresh and irritation-free. If I’m in a public restroom, I’ll duck into a stall and handle it quietly. For extra freshness, I sometimes use a no-rinse cleansing spray — lightly scented or unscented, depending on the vibe. It’s like a mini shower on the go!
Speaking of showers, bathing daily (or more) is a must. Conventions can get sweaty, especially in a fursuit or crowded room, so I make time to hit the hotel shower at least once a day. If I’m feeling extra grimy mid-day, I’ll sneak in a quick rinse. Pair that with a mild, fragrance-free soap to keep my skin happy and odor-neutral. Post-shower, I pat dry thoroughly — moisture is the enemy of hygiene down there — and sometimes dust on a bit of baby powder or cornstarch to stay dry and smooth.
Then there’s diaper choice and fit. I go for high-quality, absorbent diapers with leak guards — none of that cheap stuff that can’t handle a surprise IBS flare. A snug fit is key; too loose, and you risk leaks; too tight, and it’s uncomfortable. I test my gear at home first to make sure it’s up to the task. At cons, I layer up with dark shorts or a onesie to keep everything discreet and secure — no wardrobe malfunctions here!
Diet and prep play a huge role, too. I avoid trigger foods like greasy con snacks or caffeine bombs before big outings. Instead, I stick to bland, gut-friendly stuff like rice, bananas, or oatmeal to keep my IBS chill. Hydration’s important, but I sip water steadily rather than chugging — keeps things balanced without overloading my system. If I’m planning to sip a con cocktail, I time it so I’m near a bathroom and can change ASAP if needed.
Odor control is my secret weapon. I carry a small deodorizing spray (think Febreze for bags) to mist my changing kit if it’s been a busy day. Some diapers come with built-in odor neutralizers, which is a bonus. And if I’m in a shared space, I’m extra mindful — stepping outside or finding a private spot to handle changes so no one catches a whiff.
And sometimes, I won’t even wear a diaper at all!
Real talk: diapers are a choice, not a crutch. I wear them when it suits me, but I’m just as happy — and hygienic — without. I don’t need them to have a good time; they’re just one part of my vibe.
Last year, I hit up BabyFurCon — my first big AB/DL convention — and wow, was I blown away by how clean everyone kept it! I’ve got a nose like a bloodhound, and I couldn’t sniff out a single hygiene slip-up. Attendees were rocking diapers like pros, showering regularly, and changing when needed. No one smelled like they’d been rolling in a litter box, and I was living my best life in that happy headspace. Big props to the event’s Code of Conduct, which is holy grail for keeping AB/DL and babyfur gatherings top-notch.
That experience really drove it home for me: hygiene isn’t just about me feeling good; it’s about making sure everyone around me, diaper fans or not, can chill without worry. I get it — not everyone’s into the crinkle life, and that’s cool. My friend’s comment wasn’t a dig; it was just them being real about their comfort zone. So, I’m here to say: I’ve got your back. I’m all about keeping things clean, discreet, and drama-free, so we can all enjoy any event together.