Last week I decided to accept inquiries for ABDL roommates in one unit of the duplex I own in San Luis Obispo County, California. I recently wrote about what it means to have ABDL roommates. Now I get to practice what I preach.
This is not a social experiment. It continues the ideas I have shared for more than 20 years in the ABDL community. Clear rules and honest talk make it possible for people like us to live together.
What BabyFurCon Showed Me
At BabyFurCon in 2024 I spent real time with responsible, like-minded ABDLs. We wore diapers openly. No one had to hide. That simple fact changed everything.
We talked more freely about our beliefs, our identities, and what we wanted. We set aside the usual adult rules about “normal.” We created a space that worked for us. Inside that space I saw how living together could feel affirming and even healing.
It is not very different from sharing a home with people who deal with incontinence. The difference is acceptance. No one needs to feel judged for an accident. Everyone already understands.
A Personal Turning Point
In the last months of my father’s life he struggled with incontinence. One day I told him, “I accept this. It’s okay. Let me get you products that work.” His shoulders relaxed. He felt less alone in the discomfort.
Imagine living with people who already wear diapers. Wearing them is not just allowed. It is part of everyday life. That is the environment I want to offer.
What This Opportunity Means
I am excited to share my house with others who understand this life. Boundaries and expectations will stay clear and reasonable. I do not plan to turn the experience into story material. I simply want a place where I can be my padded self and give the same chance to others.
Losing both of my parents in two years shook me hard. From that grief comes a chance to connect with people in a real and open way. I feel hopeful about the future.
Interested in Becoming My Roommate?
If you want to take this step with me, reach out on Bluesky. We will talk and see whether it is a good fit.
Here’s a great video explaining how to find the right roommate: